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When the Preacher is Fired…

Editorial by Jimmy Bagwell

I have often wondered if members actually consider the loss that a preacher suffers when they have been… how shall I say it…”relieved of their position“. The following article by Michael Whitworth answers a few of those questions.

Preachers are fired for various reasons; some good, some bad. Michael does not dwell on the reasons though. He made it clear that such was not the purpose of the article. I, however, will not hesitate to put in my two cents. (adjusted for inflation of course)

Based on observations, conversations, and personal experience many preachers, more often than not, are not presented with the reasons for their termination other that the convenient  “we just believe it’s time for a change” or “things are just not working out’. Dear brethren, if the decision has been made to fire your preacher please have the dignity to tell him WHY.

If’s it’s something he has done (or not done) tell him so he can correct it in the future. If it’s a doctrinal issue, tell him so he can reexamine himself. If your just ticked off at him, tell him at least he’ll know. Few things are worse than a preacher wondering WHY?

But I digress. Here’s a wonderful article by Michael Whitworth.

When the Preacher is Fired…
by Michael Whitworth

Something has been on my heart for quite a while, but I hesitated blogging about it for fear that some would allege that I am biased (Yes, I am) or that I speak out of malice (No, I don’t). Recently, I learned of a preacher friend who was fired from his position. Only God knows the entire situation, and though I don’t think he was terminated for legitimate reasons, those reasons are immaterial to this post.

The news brought to the surface a volatile sea of toxic emotions, for I too have been fired from preaching positions. Twice. It is not my intention here to speak ill of those incidents, but I want to address the general theme of firing a minister. God knows that I have hesitated to say anything on this subject, but I simply can’t hold it in any longer. In my experience, church members are often torn between their affection for the preacher vs. their spiritual obligation to obey the elders, and thus do not know how to respond appropriately. For better or worse, I believe a preacher being fired is wholly different from someone else being terminated.
When a preachers loses his job, he loses his…

Church Family
Growing up, since dad preached, we never lived near physical family members, so the church became my family. Now that I’m an adult, when I move into a new community, my local brethren become like family to me very quickly. (e.g. births, promotions, celebrations, healing), while also the pain of life (e.g., illness, economic hardship, death). I am often in the homes of my church family, and they in mine.

When a preachers loses his job, he loses his church family. Some elders (wrongly, in my opinion) insist that members have no contact with the terminated minister. When some other member would lose their job, as devastating as it is, they still have the ability to lean on their church family and share their hardship (and let’s be honest, unemployment is a traumatic thing for everyone). They can go to their church family and ask for prayers, encouragement, and other help. If loss of employment begins to affect their personal finances, that members can go to the elders and ask for assistance until they get back on their feet.

When a preacher is fired, he loses such a wonderful support system since he loses his church family. Can he go to the elders, men who just fired him, and ask for financial assistance if things become tough? A preacher often is geographically isolated from his blood family, who can offer only a little comfort if separated by long distances. What Sara and I found most disorienting is that we found it difficult to locate a new place to worship. And since we did not know how much longer we would be in the area, it was hard to establish relationships with people since we thought we’d be moving in the near future. To borrow Paul’s metaphor of the church as a body, we felt like a finger, hand, or foot that had been severed and cast aside to whither.

As crazy as it sounds, I wish there was a church somewhere that ministered to preachers in between pulpits, a church that could be their surrogate family until they were reestablished in local work. Were it not for my belief in the communion of the saints and the universal nature of the church, I might have left the church altogether and sought help and hope elsewhere. The church has given me a lot of reasons to walk away from my faith…

But Jesus has given me many more reasons to stay.

Home
Sara and I have been married 5 years as of April 24th, but we have moved 5 times in our marriage and been a part of four different congregations in those years. I realize that home is where the heart is, that it need not be tied to an actual house. But I don’t think I’m too far off base to say it is a traumatic thing to lose your house/home. When I was fired in Houston, it cut us deeper than we expected to face the reality that we would be forced to move and give up our house, a home we had built and planned to raise our family in. I had allowed Sara to decorate and make it her “nest” as we drew closer to starting our family.
When a preacher loses his job, unless he is willing to leave ministry, he almost always is forced to move. This means a new home, a new town, new schools, new relationships. Like ball coaches and military, a preacher has virtually no hope of raising his children in one place. As I get older, I begin to realize the terrible consequences of not having roots in a place. It’s never easy, but moving around is certainly easier when your single or newly married vs. when raising kids.
When someone loses their job, it is not as often that they are forced to move in order to be employed again. Again, it is often the case that s/he can remain in the same town, at the same church, and in the same schools. They perhaps might have a longer commute or other hassles, but moving isn’t always necessary. For a preacher, it almost always is. There is a terrible toll taken particularly on preachers’ kids who have to move around a lot, and the church could do a better job of showing those kids some grace.
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To any preachers reading this who may have been fired, let me say I’m so sorry. I’ve been there. It stinks. God loves you, and your ministry is never over until He says so. Do not seek vengeance, or to inflict harm on Jesus’ bride. Jesus himself will return one day and take vengeance on those who have caused problems for you. Meanwhile, know that when you lose your job, God and your fellow preaching brothers know you’ve lost much much more than that.

To church members whose preacher has just been fired… Where do I begin? Your (former) preacher needs expressions of love and support. You don’t have to choose sides, and if he’s the man of God he’s supposed to be, that preacher won’t expect you to pick sides. But shame on any Christian elder-ship that considers expressions of love to be “picking sides” or a threat to the “unity of the body.” Both times I was fired, Sara and I quickly figured out who our true friends were. Some dropped us completely and we never heard from them. Others, who we thought weren’t too happy with us, turned out to be the best encouragers. Preachers, when terminate, need a lot of love and grace, because the personal toll of being fired will be more devastating for them than for anyone else.

To the church at large, whether you’ve just lost your preacher or he is celebrating his 30th anniversary, remember that preachers have no business being on pedestals or worshiped as heroes, and we sure aren’t to be envied by others. As Paul put it 2,000 years ago, “We have become, and are still, like the scum of the world, the refuse of all things,” (1 Cor. 4:13). Rough translation, true, biblical, Christ-glorifying ministry isn’t for those seeking prestige and fame. It’s certainly not for the faint of heart.

Thirty years ago, my aunt cross-stitched a small piece of cloth, framed it, and gave it to my dad. It now hangs on my wall, and I glance at it every time I walk out on Sunday morning to teach my class or present my sermon. Many preachers will recognize the proverb. “Work for the Lord, the pay is not much, but the retirement plan is out of this world.”

Indeed.

 

June 5, 2014 Posted by | FYI, Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Single Minded or Single Blinded:

When I first started in the ministry I had a difficult time finding a church that wanted to work with a “single guy”. I didn’t think much of it at the time until I started really reading the ads for preachers in greater detail. Almost every one of the ads listed what they considered the qualifications of a “proper” minister. Almost without fail and at the top of the list “MUST BE MARRIED”! Since then I have become a strong advocate for single ministers who simply want to spread the word. But, instead of being offered the opportunity, they are dismissed as if they have some kind of contagious disease.

I have written several articles on the subject and have considered posting them here. But then I ran across this article by Stan Mitchell and decided he says everything I would say so why reinvent the wheel.

Enjoy and be enlightened.

The Single Minister
Guest Editorial: by Stan Mitchell

“For a man to remain a bachelor, he must either keep a cool head, or cold feet.”

Barnabas, Jeremiah, Paul, Jesus Christ. What do these men have in common? They were single ministers. Bachelors who served the Lord.

It fascinates me how resistant the church is today to the idea of a single man in the ministry. I don’t know how many church members say, “We prefer our preacher to be married.” That single preacher probably prefers to be married, too.

I am heartbroken to say I can name numerous men who have given up their dream of preaching because churches will not hire a man who is single. Is this any way to further the kingdom?

The New Testament tells us that elders are to be the husbands of one wife (1 Timothy 3:2). It says no such thing about a preacher’s wife.

Some suggest a single preacher may “have trouble with the women of the congregation.” Really? Isn’t that a question of character, not marital status? Have you ever known a married man to fancy himself a big hit with the ladies? Hire a man of character, regardless of his marital status.

Others suggest a single man is not mature. Folks, some of the most immature people I have ever known are married.
Still others suggest the wife can be involved in women’s activities. First, this places an unfair and un-biblical burden on preachers’ wives. The Bible says as much about the preacher’s wife as it does about the Hunger Games trilogy. (That was a joke; the Bible says nothing about the ubiquitous movie phenomenon).

The single preacher can minister to an increasingly growing demographic group in our churches, namely, single Christians. These people’s souls are just as valuable as the souls of married people. What is more, a singles group properly motivated can be one of the church’s greatest, most evangelistic assets.

Most startlingly important of all: We have placed a rule on our churches that the Bible never does. When we deny single ministers the opportunity to serve, brethren, we are being unscriptural!

Single women, too, can serve (under biblical conditions, naturally). They served both Paul and the Lord. Why not now?
Paul thought being single was an advantage in ministry.

The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife” (1 Corinthians 7:22,23).

Jesus declared there was an honored place for the single, those who have chosen to be single “for the sake of the kingdom of heaven” (Matthew 19:12).

Brethren, it’s time someone said something about this! We are limiting ourselves as a fellowship when we shut these good people out of service. On the mission field, single people can serve without the limitations of a married man; in our pulpits they can serve with distinction, just as preachers in Bible times did.

The Lord’s kingdom has been hurt by our blinders, our prejudice against single people. Let me be blunt and urgent. It needs to stop!
Have you tried using a minister who is single? Before you dismiss the idea, keep in mind the time he can give to the task, the concentration he can place on it. Or simply do this. When considering a man for ministry, look at his qualifications, his experience, his character. Leave his marital status to the Facebook page.

May 15, 2014 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Totally like whatever, you know?

I ran across this interesting poem by a man named Taylor Mali. The reason I found it so interesting is that it speaks a truth that many ignore. Sit back and enjoy.

 

Totally like whatever, you know?

In case you haven’t noticed, it has somehow become un-cool to sound like you know what you’re talking about.  Or believe strongly in what you’re ”like” saying?

Invisible question marks and parenthetical (you know?)’s and “(Ya know what I’m saying’s”) have been attaching themselves to the ends of our sentences?  Even when those sentences aren’t, “like”, questions?

Declarative sentences – so-called  because they used to, “like”“ya know”, DECLARE things to be true, “OK”, as opposed to other things which were, “like”,  “totally” “Ya know” “not” -. They have been infected by a tragically cool and “totally” hip interrogative tone.

As if I’m saying, “Don’t think I’m un-cool just ‘cause I’ve “like” noticed this; “OK”? I have nothing personally invested in my own opinions; I’m just “like” inviting you to join me on the bandwagon of my own uncertainty.”

What has happened to our conviction? Where are the limbs out on which we once walked?  Have they been, “like”, chopped down with the rest of the rain forest? “Ya know”? Or do we have, “like”, nothing to say?

Has society just become so filled with these conflicting feelings of   “nehh” that we have gotten to the point where we are the most aggressively inarticulate generation to come along since . . .  “ya know”, a long time ago!

So I implore you, I entreat you, and I challenge you: To speak with conviction; To say what you believe in a manner that bespeaks the determination with which you believe it; because, contrary to the wisdom of the bumper sticker, it is not enough these days to simply QUESTION AUTHORITY.

You got to speak with it, too.

 

March 16, 2011 Posted by | FYI, Uncategorized | Leave a comment